BABY: Pink or Blue…. It don’t matter

February 10, 2016

Gender Neutral from Joules

I’ve been thinking about this long and hard. It’s a tricky decision to make, especially when your gut says you might change your mind on the day, but here goes…. I had no intention of finding out the gender of Baby Bee at my 20 week ultrasound scan.

My instinct for a long time has said not to find out, and I have a number of reasons for my decision which I thought I’d share!

First of all the biggy! What if the sonographer gets it wrong?! Now I know technology has vastly improved but there is always the possibility of inaccuracy! Then you’ve decked out a nursery and wardrobe in pink and tutus, to have a bouncing boy move into the room a few weeks later. Of course this isn’t common, but I wouldn’t want to take the risk.

I guess though for me, the main reason I don’t want to find out is that I just don’t care if baby is a he or a she, so long as Baby Bee is healthy, I just don’t mind. I have absolutely no preference.

And there’s practical reasons for not knowing too. The nursery can be gender neutral meaning it is ready for future babes, as well as a unisex starter wardrobe and newborn kit, which means less expense when it comes to buying for baby no.2, if you’re that way inclined (which I am… In fact maybe even baby no.3!!). Baby set up is expensive… I should know, I’ve been number crunching for weeks, so if I can save in the long term… Why not!!

I was also really inspired by Sophia at Tattooed Tealady with her baby announcement post. She said her other half was the one to say she’d had a baby girl, and honestly that thought alone made my heart stop. I can’t think of anything more perfect than for Dann to be the one to say baby boy or girl. We have our names so we will know what to call them straight away!

Plus I’m honestly looking forward to the surprise. And if it’s good enough for my mum, who didn’t find out for me or my sisters, then it is good enough for me.

What about you? Are you expecting? Do you plan to find out the gender or not, or even if you’re not expecting, which way do you think you’ll go? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Also how cute is this set from Joules!! It’s a little big as we picked it up in the sale, but it will suit boy or girl for bedtime! 

8 responses to “BABY: Pink or Blue…. It don’t matter”

  1. Kimberley Louise Smith says:

    I have no intention of having children but I love reading your posts! My mum didn't find out about me but was absolutely convinced I was going to be a boy so bought loads of blue clothing, then I turned out to be a girl which apparently was quite funny! She had the name set and everything, apparently I was unnamed for a good time while my parents decided what to call me! xxKimberley //

    • Rachel Bradford says:

      Aww thank you lovely. Oh no, that is so funny, and totally something I would do, hence not finding out! Luckily we have both our boy and girl names already picked out! xx

  2. Kayleigh Woodland says:

    I found out when I was pregnant many moons ago now. I am too anxious to not know and repeatedly asked at every scan appointment. In fact if I have another then I will be looking at a gender scan/4D Scan just to confirm the gender. I understand the reasoning for those not wanting to find out and I know you can never be completely prepared mentally for having a baby but for me personally, I need to plan. Even though at the start, I'd probably only buy neutral colours anyway because they grow so fast and are sick on everything!

    • Rachel Bradford says:

      I love the idea of a 4D scan but as we haven't found out, I don't think we can do one unfortunately. They look so good. But I think we will find out if we have a second, which we currently plan to. I'm finding planning around gender neutral really quite easy actually so I'm not too worried. xx

  3. Jasmine Potts says:

    I think not finding out also adds to the excitement and surprise of it all! Even though I understood why some women choose not to know, you've made some points in this post that make me understand it even more! I guess I just don't have the patience about me to be able to wait the full time to know! And for me personally, it felt like being able to address my baby by their name gave them more identity, that's just me though I think! I have a lot of neutral things which will be kept for baby #2 and we went for furniture that was just white so we can adapt the furniture as well. Though I think before baby #2 we may need a bigger house! I enjoyed reading this and I'm so excited to find out what you are having when they get here into the world!

    • Rachel Bradford says:

      To be fair, your gender reveal very nearly swayed me into finding out! I do sometimes wish there was another way to reference to the baby with a proper pronoun. But I have to say I really am looking forward to hearing Dann say what our baby is!!

  4. Anonymous says:

    We didn't find out with our first (Erin) for all the same reasons as u, but we eventually found out with our second at 34 weeks scan (Andee) as we wanted to see if the comparison of knowing and not knowing made any difference! And it really didn't tbh. It was nice to know she was Andee through labour though as I felt like I could talk to her, and we did it as teamwork, where as not knowing Erin was Erin made me work the same amount but because I just wanted to Know!!

    • Rachel Bradford says:

      I think we'll be doing the same for no.2. Be nice to see the difference. Definitely going to be pushing to find out what he/she is!!! Xx

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